What's Right In Front of Us

I have this frustration.  I have had a major history of being talked over or ignored.  It actually became a joke in the community I lived in while in Fort Lauderdale because I was supposed to be in charge of the monthly business meetings.  BUT, the conversation would inevitably get derailed and we would all laugh as I couldn't get a word in edgewise most of the time.  (And it's not that I'm not a talkative person either...)

Now, I know some of this could have to do with what is going on in the internal (as Dr. Cloud would say), but I believe that it is just rude to talk over others.  I just do.  I like to be invited into a conversation, just the same way as I like to invite others into conversation.  And I think many people in our society are just used to being rude.  Call it one of my strengths that is also a weakness to community building.  What can I say?

What further frustrates me though, is not business meeting commentary--or small group or what have you.  What frustrates me is when I am in serious dialogue with another, they ask for advice or "what to do", I offer a game plan, and they straight up ignore or rationalize away what I said.  I mean--I might as well have told the wall.  You've had that moment, right?  Where you've thought something was painfully obvious--so you tried to help someone out--and they just didn't get it.

Now, this isn't a proud moment, or a "woe is me" commentary.  I've got my boundaries (also as Dr.Cloud says) and I'm working on that resentment.  However, I think my situation is not unique.  I think it speaks of a broad-sweeping issue:

  We spend a lot of time ignoring, or rationalizing away the truth that is right in front of us.

I mean, we all ask for advice or "What to do" and ignore it when we get it.  Francis Chan puts it this way (and I'm paraphrasing here from the DVD "Basic: Follow Jesus")

"When I tell my daughter to clean her room, she knows better.  She doesn't go into her room and say:

'Daddy, I spent all afternoon memorizing what you told me to do.  Aren't you proud?'

or

'Daddy, I had a small group meeting on what you said, and we came up with many different meanings for that phrase.  What do you think?'

No!  She goes and cleans her room because she knows that's what I want her to do."

So--why do we do this with one another?  Because we don't trust each other easily--and for good reason.  I mean, we've been let down and hurt by others before.  However, what about those "tried-and-true" people who really do have our best interests in mind?

Furthermore, why do we do this with God?  The one who never goes back on a promise, who loves us more and better than we could even imagine, who is always faithful (even when we are not), the one who is always trustworthy (even when we are not), the one who  has been around the longest (who should naturally have the most insight into any given situation), the one who inspired people to write down His teachings so we'd have a foundation on how He wants us to live, and who ALSO gave us his very Spirit to dwell within us to guide us into specifically what the Father wants ANND--who this life of ours is really about anyway..so...why still the distrust?  As I heard one Sunday morning: "When did trust and obey turn into just know and understand?"

I'm not saying I have any answers for this question.  I am just saying I know how much it frustrates me when I'm only trying to do or say things for another's good and they don't listen--so I can only imagine how frustrating that is to God when I do the same thing.